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Confidence through creativity

Confidence through creativity

Allow Yourself To Be Mediocre 

We all want to be fabulous, but if we’re just starting out, we may have to accept a “mediocre” rating of our ability, whether in acting or in our professional life. Again, this is perfectly fine. Not everyone is a star or a “natural” and it takes years to get the experience to progress to a senior management role. As an example, in acting we may have to get involved in several productions before we can really shine , in the same way as we might feel when we lead a meeting for the very first time, or present at a conference, or run our very first training course.

If we have them, we really need to let go of our desires to always be the best; it’s a journey; it’s critical for us to enjoy the path we take to gaining experience and becoming more proficient and ultimately more confident.

Building Confidence

Initially, one of my key reasons in joining the production of Jesus Christ Superstar, in both 2015 and 2016, was to make new friends and meet more people locally being relatively new to the Lincoln area.  It was really important with that consideration in mind, for me to lose my inhibitions (and yes, we all have them!) and talk to my fellow actors, building bonds between the cast and crew that eventually really helped my performance. Watching the experienced actors around me helped me gain confidence in how I performed week after week.

For me, the building bonds was probably the most difficult thing to achieve overall; being a naturally shy person, I know for some who know me may find that difficult to believe, but going into a room full of people I don’t know is very challenging, and I have to fight against my own lack of confidence to approach strangers in any sort of environment.  I also find this is the case in my working life; although I’m very confident with my work ability, I often have to attend conferences and network meetings with new customers which really challenges me.  With absolute certainty, being part of the production has given me a renewed energy and confidence that has helped tremendously in lots of areas of my life which I’ll be eternally thankful for!

 

CIPP Annual Conference 2016 Opening Address (photo courtesy of James Bartlett, CIPP)

If you want to read more about boosting confidence and self esteem generally, Psychology Today has some wonderful helpful tips that you may want to read, including the following,  17 simple suggestions for building confidence and self-esteem.

Self-esteem is affected by physical ill-health, negative life events such as losing your job or getting divorced, deficient or frustrating relationships, and a general sense of lack of control. This sense of lack of control is often particularly marked in people who are the victims of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, or of discrimination on the grounds of religion, culture, race, sex, or sexual orientation.

Thankfully, there are a number of simple things that anyone can do to boost his or her self-esteem and, hopefully, break out of this vicious circle. You may already be doing some of these things, and you certainly don’t need to do them all. Just do those that you feel most comfortable with.

1. Make three lists: one of your strengths, one of your achievements, and one of the things that you admire about yourself. Try to get a friend or relative to help you with these lists. Keep the lists in a safe place and read through them regularly.

2. Think positively about yourself. Remind yourself that, despite your problems, you are a unique, special, and valuable person, and that you deserve to feel good about yourself. Identify and challenge any negative thoughts that you may have about yourself, such as ‘I am a loser’, ‘I never do anything right’, or ‘No one really likes me’.

3. Pay special attention to your personal hygiene: for example, style your hair, trim your nails, floss your teeth.

4. Dress in clothes that make you feel good about yourself.

5. Eat good food as part of a healthy, balanced diet. Make meal times a special time, even if you are eating alone. Turn off the TV or radio, set the table, and arrange your food so that it looks attractive on your plate.

6. Exercise regularly: go out for a brisk walk every day, and take more vigorous exercise (exercise that makes you break into a sweat) three times a week.

7. Ensure that you are getting enough sleep.

8. Manage your stress levels. If possible, agree with a close friend or relative that you will take turns to massage each other on a regular basis.

9. Make your living space clean, comfortable, and attractive. Display items that remind you of your achievements or of the special times and people in your life.

10. Do more of the things that you enjoy doing. Do at least one thing that you enjoy every day, and remind yourself that you deserve it.

11. Get involved in activities such as painting, music, poetry, and dance. Such artistic activities enable you to express yourself, acquire a sense of mastery, and interact positively with others. Find a class through your local adult education service or community centre.

12. Set yourself a challenge that you can realistically achieve, and then go for it! For example, take up yoga, learn to sing, or cook for a small dinner party at your apartment or house.

13. Do some of the things that you have been putting off, such as clearing out the garden, washing the windows, or filing the paperwork.

14. Do something nice for others. For example, strike up a conversation with the person at the till, visit a friend who is sick, or get involved with a local charity.

15. Get others involved: tell your friends and relatives what you are going through and enlist their advice and support. Perhaps they have similar problems too, in which case you might be able to band up and form a support group.

16. Try to spend more time with those you hold near and dear. At the same time, try to enlarge your social circle by making an effort to meet people.

17. On the other hand, avoid people, places, and institutions that treat you badly or that make you feel bad about yourself. This could mean being more assertive. If assertiveness is a problem for you, ask a healthcare professional about assertiveness training.

5 great quotations about self-esteem and self-confidence

Adversity and perseverance and all these things can shape you. They can give you a value and a self-esteem that is priceless. —Scott Hamilton

Giving people self-confidence is by far the most important thing that I can do. Because then they will act. —Jack Welch

Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence. —Helen Keller

Health is the greatest possession. Contentment is the greatest treasure. Confidence is the greatest friend. —Lao Tzu

To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are.—Anonymous